The Journal
The Unlearning: Reclaiming Rest, Softness, and Self Without Punishment
Jun 29, 2025
How to Heal Guilt Around Rest, Food, and Pleasure: The Unpunished Begins
I’m not going to ask you if you’ve ever felt that pleasure, softness, joy, or even rest came with a price tag — because I know we all have.
From your body telling you to rest & your mind saying no. As you lay down, you think about the dishes to do, the clothes to fold, the food to cook, the garbage to take out.
To questioning whether you should order that dish or desert. Wondering if you “need” it…. What it would do to your form, or feeling guilt even if you say yes.
But truly, there is nothing wrong in any of these situations. Yet our nervous system is still bracing.
Why?
Society.
That’s it. Plain + simple.
They tell you to eat for the body you want & not for the soul you have.
To workout for the looks you desire & not for the life you truly want to live.
They tell you to dismiss your “wants”.
That everything comes back to the scarcity of need.
Somehow over time, humans evolved in the opposite way of what our systems needed.
We started holding grudges & punishing for mistakes; instead of learning through them for not just those involved— but for the community as a whole.
The Unlearning: The Unpunished is a gathering, workshop, community event — whatever you want to call it, was created to challenge perfection.
Breaking Generational Trauma Through Art, Community & Nervous System Repatterning
We’re not gathering the healed.
We’re gathering the real.
Join us July 13th by the Coquitlam River for The Unlearning: The Unpunished—a sacred space for reclaiming softness, releasing shame, and becoming whole through art, nature, and community.
What if breaking generational trauma didn’t look like being a perfect parent or person but working through your mistakes in real time?
Even if you don’t know exactly what to do that becomes your next focus is to find the tool so that you don’t create a wound that festers.
You create strength and resilience instead through proper care and nurturing through mistakes.
The belief that mistakes must be punished started happening when humans stopped living with the Earth.
Punishments would be extreme & often the mistake was never fully understood— as people were just so apt to offer the need to correct.
This human mindset & energy has trickled down into current day society still.
You see it in schools you quiet children’s individuality & expression at a young age.
You see it in city systems who unknowingly cater to people heavy in this mindset, who inadvertently destroy community instead of live it & create it.
On July 13th, 2025 we gather with those who want to channel the energy of saying “enough is enough, human being shouldn’t operate like this” — through art.
Why You Don’t Need to Earn Joy: The Unpunished Gathering July 13th in Coquitlam
This is me. Olivia Greenland. Sitting in the very forest we’ll gather in on July 13th. This isn’t just a place — it’s a portal. I’ve walked these trees with questions, with grief, with softness trying to rise. Every time, they met me with something deeper than answers: permission. This is the energy I’ll be holding for you. Not to fix or guide but to witness, and to remind you what wholeness already lives in your body.
Nestled in a beautiful old growth grove of trees along the Coquitlam River in Port Coquitlam; we share our old beliefs, our new ones, we embody the transition through art that transforms us in the process.
You will experience an art station guided by Art By Kaitlin + a guided belief release portrait with Olivia Greenland Photography.
Bring a blanket, pillow, chair, or sit directly on the forest floor.
Wear clothes that make you feel like you. When you close your eyes and open them— looking at yourself in the mirror, you should be drawn to your eyes first. That’s when an outfit truly encompasses you.
My pro tip… is to wear natural based fibres. There is just something about those pieces of clothes. Made with more care + connected to the earth.
Bring a notebook & your favourite pen to journal in if anything comes up throughout this. Guided journaling prompts will be provided to help inspire you.
Children are encouraged to come, let’s include the rising generation in this work. It is for them after all…
Bring water to stay hydrated throughout all this release work.
Are you ready to go against the grain?
This is what your nervous system has been telling you all along.
Reclaim Rest, Reject Perfection: A Transformative Community Workshop for Healing
This isn’t just a photoshoot. It’s a ritual of release. You’ll write the belief you’re ready to unlearn, and then let the forest witness your becoming. No performance. No perfection. Just a sacred pause — held by the trees, the truth, and the lens. July 13th, 2025. Coquitlam River. Come exhale with us.
This long form community art project was inspired by the patterns I observed within my own community + in the world as a whole. Observing these patterns & naming them — allows me to see it within myself as well. This mindset isn’t something to be ashamed of.
You’re only human. If you didn’t realize this by now… mistakes are how we grow. They are how we create lessons for future generations to learn from. How you teach it… that’s what makes the difference. Should it be fear based? Or resonance based?
The Unpunished is just one chapter of The Unlearning. This art project works by including community members in the creation of it. For how can you truly touch the root cause of a societal topic without the subjects + their truths?
If you feel reservations about doing this work in front of a camera… just know — my speciality with my clients is creating a space where their nervous system feels safe in front of my lens, often because they finally feel seen + free.
I know I know…. It may feel weird to do this with other people. That means you’ve been taught to heal & do your shadow work in silence, in private, and in the darkness. But, true healing does not hide. True shadow work is not done while still in the shadows— for that becomes only another shadow version to meet one day.
This is for reclaiming every ounce of joy you have available to you in your life. Reclaiming that true meaning of perfection is honest authenticity.
Get your ticket on EventBrite today! There’s only ten spots.
